Tuesday, August 17, 2010

Americans are the Nicest People in the World

By Tom Kando

Today, I took another long bike ride in the foothills. Redneck country. Where everyone drives a pick-up truck or an SUV. Where they wear cowboy hats.

It was a grueling 30 miles uphill, during the hottest part of the afternoon. I stopped at a roadside joint a few miles outside of Nevada City. You know, with a Budweiser sign out front, a board advertising nightcrawlers, hamburgers, etc. I just wanted some ice water in my bottles.

Then I saw a sign, CLOSED ON MONDAY. Fortunately, the lady owner happened to come around, sweeping the porch. Nice looking, forty-something brunette, somewhat portly.

“You need water?” she asks, smiling.

“Well, I see you’re closed...”

“No problem, come on in. The ice machine is in the kitchen. Let me get you some ice, too...

I follow her inside. She disappears into the kitchen, and I see a bunch of $20 bills sitting on the counter by the cash register.

She returns a few minutes later, with a bucket of ice. She fills my two water bottles for me.

“Great, thank you so much for your trouble,” I say, trying to give her a couple of dollars.

But she refuses.. “Nah, you don’t need to do that...”

So we chat for a few minutes, while I guzzle down some ice water, and then I start my descent back to Sacramento, after she waves me off with a friendly,
“ you come back now, ya hear!”

So, as I start tumbling down the hill, I think to myself, “I swear, Americans are soooo nice! And she leaves a total stranger alone at the bar with $20 bills all over it! Something like this would be inconceivable in any other country where I have lived or visited. Hungary? France? Russia? Even Holland or Switzerland? No way. Nor anywhere else in Europe.

Have you ever tried to take a leak in a European café without ordering a drink? They’ll hound you out! Last year I took my 96-year old mother on the road in Europe. At her age, she has to go a lot. We had to make an emergency pitstop at a roadside café in France. No way. They wouldn’t let her use the bathroom, unless we ordered a couple of drinks. For the rest of the trip, she learned to squat on the roadside, between the two car doors open and shielding her.

Same thing happened to me in Switzerland. I was told at a mall restaurant, “first you order ze drink, ja! Zen you use ze bassroom!”

In Holland, don’t try to get a refill of hot water for your tea, or a second wedge of lemon. “We don’t do that here, sir! You must buy a second cup of tea, and pay for the extra lemon.”

And don’t expect free tap water in restaurants. If you ask for it, they’ll bring you a tiny bottle of mineral water, which costs an arm and a leg.


Well, you get my drift. But maybe you don’t like my sociology. I just told you about the nice lady in the California Gold Country. That’s a sample of one. Stop always generalizing, Kando.

Well, all I can tell you is that I have had dozens - maybe hundreds - of such experiences over the past 50 years. Of course, there are always exceptions. But by and large, I have found Americans to be the nicest people.

I haven’t been everywhere. Maybe in Bali people are even nicer. Or some place else. But hey, I am just giving you an insight. Take it or leave it.

Today, I am not ranting about Americans’ political misconceptions. Who knows, the nice lady at the roadside joint might belong to the Tea Party. But that’s a different topic. All I know is that Americans are the nicest people in the world. Maybe it’s something left of the pioneer spirit. An ebullient, friendly, outgoing mentality that says, believe the best in people, until proven otherwise. leave comment here

14 comments:

Efrutik said...

I must admit most Americans are pretty nice. This reminds me of a comment from our visiting German friend who were here a couple of weeks ago. They said upon their visit to the city that in Germany people are much meaner and more stern. Here they found people smiling at them more often and being generally nicer with their attitudes.

Now I can only speak for Russia as that is the place where I lived before US, and believe me I was as shocked to see people here actually smiling at me on the streets rather than just staring and looking like their whole life's troubles are caused directly by my existence. As for the rest of the world, I will have to travel more to add to my personal appraisal of territorial niceness.

Anonymous said...

You’re right; you would be mugged in Russia for your bike to boot.

tom said...

Thanks for your comments. Since you both happen to mention Russia, I'll say this:
I had a a great time when I was in Russia, met a lot of great young people. Material conditions were a bit rough, but that's another issue.
As I admitted in my post, generalizations are hazardous. There is also a lot of internal variation within every society. You are more likely to be mugged downtown in a big city, whether it's New York, Paris or Moscow. In this country, Southern hospitality is proverbial (and I have experienced it). Also, times change. When I grew up in France after World War Two, the French were miserable - unhappy and mean. Now they are much nicer.
Maybe some day Americans will also be mean, perhaps if the economy doesn't improve. But for now, they are still great...

Anonymous said...

Great story
I hope we get the chance to prove that the Dutch can be nice too.
We do our best.

And I was thinking if the rest of the world was as nice of this woman, would you have had this great experience yesterday?

Steve said...

In my one working visit to Nederland about 20 years ago, I found folks I worked with and met in and around in Amsterdam to be "nice". Even expats form other countries semed nicer when I encountered them in Amsterdam.

That was after a year living and working with the British. It felt like the ethnic English and Scottish folk wanted to be nice, but they just didn't know how.

don said...

Hey Tom,

That was a heartwarming story. Glad you had the experience. Yes, I witnessed some really harsh behavior regarding bathrooms in Europe also. The worst, I think, was an American guy in Monaco who wanted to take a little kid in a bathroom so the just the kid could pee, but the bathroom guy wanted to charge him two euros, but he had only one. I gave the American a euro right in front of the bathroom guy, staring at him, and saying that this wouldn't have happened in America, but I don't think he cared.....

Tomi said...

Tomi wrote:
"I gave a very poor guy a lift in Morocco, so he invited me and my 2 passengers into his home to drink tea and have some dinner! I think people who don't live in cities are the nicest people and the more remote they are the nicer they are. And poor people, they are very nice too. There, more generalisations for ya ;)"

ellen said...

Ellen wrote:
"Shows you that you will find nice people in different places!"

Tom said...

thanks for all your comments. Many good points. It's basically a sociological topic. A lot of urban sociologists have written about what big city life does to people - some of it is negative.
It's a lot more exciting to live in Paris or London than in the boondocks, but on the other hand, it can also be harsher, especially if you are poor. So that's the kind of issues some of you are touching upon.

madeleine said...

We often go visit friends in the 'North Country' (northern New Hampshire). People there do give you a friendly wave from their pick-up trucks with an occasional dead deer strapped to their hood.

Friendly country folks that don't think twice about shooting you if you trespass on their property.

tom said...

Ouch!
Madeleine scores a point against the rednecks.

The Romans used to talk about
URBANICUS MUS VS. RUSTICUS MUS:

The urban mouse vs. the rural mouse.

The last few comments and exchanges remind me of that.

Anonymous said...

Saying nice things about Americans? Oooo...careful, careful. You won't get invited to any of those fancy smancy cocktail parties if you keep that up. LOL!

tom said...

Check out some more nice things I say about America in my recent posts - "Egypt?" and "Evil America or Victim America?"

Anonymous said...

You're right. Most Americans would go out of their way to help anyone anywhere. But I have to say we are growing weary of having our tax dollars spent on helping other countries and then getting absolutely no feeling of appreciation. We are looked upon negatively by the things our government does that in reality are beyond the majority's control. We are sick and tired of losing our sons, daughters, husbands, brothers, and friends to try and right the problems in the Middle East etc. sending humanitarian aid to every country that has a problem, etc. It seems nobody ever offers to help us in any way and yet they still find a need to criticize us. Having said that I welcome anyone visiting our country and hope some day soon American's no longer fell like the punching bag of the world.

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